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@ 2007-02-27 09:20:00
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LOVE YOU…LOVE YOU NOT
by: Sidney Liang
www.Cambodianvoices.org
02/27/2007


Living in a time of fast pace, money driven, and modern technology connections make many people who slowly settle loose touch of reality. Living day by day with the fear that one day your lovely fiancée’, wife, or girl friend would just dump you for someone else. Oh! The aching heart of uncertainty which ones would say is inevitable in these days and ages. A boiling water in a pot will soon spill out into the dirty ground. A human filled with emotions, a grown man’s fears turned into rage create unwanted domestic situations. The law enforcement comes in then created more distance between relationship and provided a passport for the relation to travel into a new world of affair, distrust, deceptive, and broken family.
A society of take and take…then throw away. A time moving too fast, living from day to day, and pain of manipulation. A friend’s tears fallen from broken love; he is lost with no relatives which left him from KR ages. A wife of beauty from the land of persevered natural stars provided comforts and peace for the lonely heart. This Christmas and New Year, while family gather together in front of a warm fires or heat for a long holiday. The snow light and the warmth heat melted his distant star. The faded wedding songs forced into the background of hard rock of living day by day, self destruction, and destruction the only love to feed the hungry. Once again, the pain returned bursting into tears covering and blanketing the sound of Christmas Carol and Karaoke entertainment. Lonely again…he begins.

The scenarios of crossover love, collapsing family culture, starving for capitalistic in the world of material goods are occurring every day. It happens on both sides, surprisingly grown men cry, and broken hearts provide domino affect for the last love. No long are love, just for the sake of love and caring for one another. A husband once said, “I am her husband just a couple of hours each day, but she is someone wife 8 hours or more per day” – what do I do? This is an unfair and unbalancing story, but sadly, they are the truest sense of living abroad. Yes, a quiet sound cracked the POT.

The cycle continues. A week ago, another friend excitedly traveled across oceans to receive his bride. Ah! The joy of helping, loving, and together with the one with fullest of our culture, tradition, and plain natural preserved star. Knowing the stories of those before him, he is optimistic of making it works…unfortunately the one before him said the same thing. Someone said years a go that still holds true “Love is blind”. Unfortunately when you are blinded by love, you’ll be pushed off the cliff.



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My true life stories, you wrote Mr. Sedney.
(Anonymous)
2007-02-28 06:39 am UTC (link)
Thank you very much Mr. Sedney you tell it alls and said as it is happen in our Cambodian life, culter, tradiction, civilization.
"Cambodian" Our people! to some, our people are not being Cambodian no more, if not all of them women that come to this country through maraig US citizen but to suffer us men and I hurd it all from cost to cost espacially in California. True is that when they cross the brigh they will destroy the brigh just like that! at home she is your wife but outside she's someone else, she can "DO" anyone she want as long as she get $$$ to satify her needs send $ to sopport her relative in Cambodai not think of you husband help her and her parents new life in this Country and there is a court battle divose, alamony, child support and so on you name they never going to have enough untill she died and her parents too.....My true stories and all men that get marry with Cambodia women in Cambodia not last, not last at all. there even more but only make me headache if tell you more only to bring the memorries back and hunt me down..... and so on.. sorry my spelling not good English.

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Re: My true life stories, you wrote Mr. Sedney.
(Anonymous)
2007-02-28 01:40 pm UTC (link)
I know when we write things related to our life...it always hurt. But if keep writing and telling, we can prevent others of walking the same path. Do not worry about spelling or anything...your story is very touching and I commence you for bringing it out. We are foreign born, so my English and yours will still have Cambodian flavor.

There are many who had the same stories and also those who journey into the same road as you right now.

Thank you for sharing your story with us,
-Sidney

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(Anonymous)
2007-03-03 04:40 am UTC (link)
I am aroused by this topic of oversea romance especially in USA.

Taking into consideration the gender disparity which is impoverished in many countries especially the third world where women are less empowered and beaten by their male counterparts, as a role model for democracy, America strives to promote women's rights at best. American law's vision is favorably bias toward women in an attempt to balance/compensate the gender inequality lost in the rest of the world as a whole.

In Cambodia, poverty and social insecurity/injustice force people to do whatever it takes to find ways out. Therefore when you go to marry someone in Cambodia, carry in mind that they are not seriously interested whatsoever in you, what kind of person you are but taking advantage from your USA status. In most of Cambodian women's perceptions, men who go to Cambodia to look for wife, generally are those widower or those who were dumped otherwise he should have been able to find one in USA and no need to take the trouble to go to Cambodia. So my opinion is do not just shop for beautiful/young one but take times to thoroughly study her true heart, and most importantly her family history... otherwise catastrophe await you when her ultimate purpose is served in the last. And law apparatus is not there to fairly judge you. Taking these two fronts into account, you must be very cautious mastering your own destiny.

Just a thought.... I am also a Cambodian woman currently living abroad.


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contradiction
(Anonymous)
2007-03-07 09:40 pm UTC (link)

Yes, life is full of contradition!

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2007-03-08 09:16 am UTC (link)
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(Anonymous)
2007-10-11 04:29 pm UTC (link)
All story of life is that you should not be sad moarn and believe nothing all around you is not important anymore that is life pity to yourself everyday people who have nothing look forward still move on you live you learn you lose your love one but you still has your health and a great life ahead of you . Each day is a new begining when the rain fall is over a new rainbow appeal that when you should ask yourself what do i really wanted to live or not .. The first person that needed it to be happy is yourself if not than you could not help anybody at all if you not happy

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